Overseas Charities????


Why do we send money to charities overseas?

If you are one of those that feel sorry for the downtrodden of other countries, I understand.  You see the poor hungry children posted up on the TV, starving to the point of emaciation and think “Oh that poor child!” Then they blast you with the “It only takes a few cents a day, no more than it would cost for a cup of coffee, to help this child.” I understand that it can be difficult to look at that and not want to help. Really, I do understand.

But, if you send money overseas, you have absolutely no guarantees that it will be used the way they promise. Even if the charity does use it for food, fresh water, etc., they have no way of stopping the government of that particular country from stealing the food/equipment at gunpoint for its own needs. You also take the risk of your money being sent to help fund terrorist groups in a completely different country.

What I don’t understand is why you don’t feel sorry for the downtrodden right in your own neighborhood, city, county, state or country? What is so hard about looking for those that are in need near where you live?

It’s not like there aren’t enough charities here in the USA that could use the help. Shoot, if we just put the same money into our domestic charities then I seriously doubt that we would have hungry/homeless children, hungry/homeless military vets, etc.

At least here in the US you can check up on where your money went, who benefitted from it and when it was used. If you find out that your money was being abused, then you have legal recourse to punish the person(s) responsible.

Also, it wouldn’t cost you any more than the same amount of money and you could make the donation either anonymously or in person (saving the cost of the stamp/transfer fee). You could meet the people that you are helping and learn about them and their situation. You could even meet other people that are busting their butts to help in a more direct way, such as running the soup kitchens/food banks. Shoot, you could always spend that money on yarn or cloth and make hats, scarves, or other clothing for direct donations. This would actually last longer than just cash or food. And, the person that received the item you made would know that you take your donation seriously enough to spend your hard earned free time on making something just for them, instead of just feeling sorry enough to make a monetary donation.

You could even take the time to teach someone something that you are very good at doing. Taking the time to show a person how to sew, crochet, cook, budget money, woodwork, beadwork, jewelry making, typing, reading, organizing, painting (fine art/household), drawing (fine art/architectural), leatherworking, metalworking, welding, or anything else that you know how to do, will actually help that person create a job niche for themselves. Not only do you feel good, but you help raise that person’s self esteem and take one more person off the needy list. And it wouldn’t be a handout. It would actually be a hand up. This is actually what most people want.

Granted, there are people out there that just want someone else to feed, house and clothe them without having to do anything for themselves. These people are obvious, but cannot (at this time, with our current social beliefs) be left out. Telling them that they are not living the life that they could be is not going to work. They are living the way they want to right now. That could change later on, but in most cases it takes a major crisis for them to decide differently. Usually they are addicts or victims of abuse that have just plain given up because life has become too difficult for them to deal with.

Also granted is that there are people out there that abuse their positions of authority in the charity. This can be overcome. All it takes is one person that is willing to step up and report their activities/crimes. We do not have enough people in this day and age that are willing and able to do this. No one wants to get involved. Or they don’t want to look like the bad person “trying to pull down the program”. Or they are afraid that the program/charity will be shut down.

Buck up! If some over-achiever politician shuts it down because of one person’s screw up, then get with the others and start up your own program/charity. Yes, this could take time to get going, but at least you will know that you are doing your best to help those who could really use the program.

It basically comes down to this:

STOP FEEDING OUR MONEY INTO OTHER COUNTRIES WHEN YOUR OWN COUNTRY CAN USE ALL THE HELP YOU ARE WILLING TO GIVE!!!!!

Discipline/Punishment


Is there a difference?

When you say “discipline”, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Is it a swat on the butt? A smack on the hand? Or maybe you think of grounding, removal of a favorite toy, sitting in the corner, etc.

These are in actuality forms of punishment.

When you say “punishment”, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Getting smacked in the face (hard enough to leave bruises)? Getting hit with a foreign object like a belt, wooden spoon, or other item that leaves excruciating bruises, welts, cuts and scars? Being locked up in a small room with no light, very little airflow, or room to stand or stretch out?

These are in actuality forms of abuse.

If you look the two terms up in most dictionaries or other reference material, you most likely will find that the terms are considered synonymous with each other. One is the outcome of the other.

We have thought of discipline and punishment in conjunction with each other for so long that it is difficult for us to separate them. Unfortunately, this is exactly what we need to do.

I feel that the dry definitions of these two words do not show the whole picture.

So, in my infinite wisdom, I am taking a leap of faith and writing down how I feel that we should go about separating. Believe me when I say, that this is very nerve-wracking for me. Living through abuse as a child makes this a difficult subject for me to be non-aggressive in the stamping on someone else’s views. But I will do my best to keep this general, informative and thought-provoking.

Here we go:

Discipline is what humans, both individually (as parents) and socially (as a society), use to instill order in our environment. This can be done through self-discipline, familial discipline, societal discipline, political discipline, cultural discipline, or religious discipline. When you get right down to it, discipline is a means of teaching one’s self and/or those around us what is good and acceptable for us.

Discipline is also the teaching of others what is acceptable behavior within societal environs. Basically, this is done by explaining to those around us what society likes or does not like of different types of behavior. These explanations can get very repetitive with young children, persons with certain types of disabilities and those that are just plain stubborn in accepting what you are teaching. This constant repetition can get very frustrating, but a strong enough form of self-discipline can prevent the breakdown into excessive punishment (known as abuse). As an example, just think about this simple question that everyone who has been around young children knows quite well. “Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?” Irritatin’ ain’t it?

Discipline can usually be accomplished by the simple expedient of saying “Please don’t do that” or “I like what you just did” or “I appreciate how you acted just now” or “That is not very nice”. That is it. That is all it takes (granted it takes multiple repetitions to get the point across) to let the people around you know what is acceptable to you. In a societal setting though, we have to get a bit more specific. Hence the laws that have been codified refined and expanded on throughout the centuries. They are basically a large group of people saying “We will not accept (this type of behavior)” or “(This type of behavior) is not good for society”.

People that use the above form of discipline have usually been denigrated for being weak or wishy-washy, when in actuality they are following the true definition of the term. Those who denigrate their methods are thinking about punishment.

Punishment is the consequence of the failure to do what is good and acceptable to those around you. If you choose to “break the rules” of the individual, family, society, culture or religion that you are in, then you will be forcefully reminded, either verbally or physically, that you messed up. This can take many forms from shunning to death.

Punishment is definitely something that should fit the “crime”. The degree of punishment naturally depends on the severity of the “crime” and the number of people who were affected. Obviously refusing to eat your peas when you are a toddler is not going to require as much punishment as going on a mass murder spree when you are an adult.

A simple “No” works very well with very young toddlers and infants old enough to know what it means. Unfortunately, humans have this nasty propensity to push the boundaries on a regular basis. Therefore, once we know that the other person understands the concept of “no”, and continues to behave unacceptably, the form of punishment we use must be increased (in very small increments) until a balance has been achieved. There is no need to knock a child down because they tried to grab something out of your hand. A light slap on the hand is enough.

Conversely, someone who knows the difference between right and wrong that deliberately sets out to cause harm to those around them should not be let off with a slap on the hand. If you are old enough to understand “I don’t like this being done to me, so other people probably won’t like it either” and then intentionally harm someone else, then you should be punished in such a manner that you won’t want to harm another ever again.

Some ideas of punishment that come to me include making the crime and punishment public (no matter what the criminal’s age, sex, religion, politics, race, etc.). Embarrassment is a wonderful form. Punishment is meant to be unpleasant. Also, get rid of the TV’s, computers, exercise equipment and fictional books that are routinely found in our jails and prisons. If you are worried about the inmates becoming unruly or even going so far as to riot, keep them in separate rooms when they are not working their butts off. You can keep them busy by re-instituting chain-gangs and physical labor nationwide. If the criminal want something to read (should they are still awake enough), let them read from dictionaries, encyclopedias, textbooks and other types of instructional material. Another reason to keep them busy or separated is to contain the forced sex that occurs in this type of situation.

Jail is not meant to be abusive or dangerous to health. Having medical services in the prison itself is a definite keeper. We definitely want to keep the indoor plumbing, actual mattresses, proper food, clothing and shoes, as well. I also feel that having access to telephones and visitation is beneficial, as well. They are reminders to the criminal of what he/she is missing out on by committing a crime. I do not believe that conjugal visitations have any benefit above the previous sentence what so ever. It is nothing more than saying that it is ok for some to get what others can’t have. It is a source of disruption. If you want to get laid, then you shouldn’t have committed the crime.

If the crime is horrendous enough, I am a firm believer in the death penalty. I also feel that criminals that flat-out refuse to accept society’s laws and repeatedly commit vicious crimes should be added to the horrendous crime category. Most likely their multiple crimes equal one horrendous crime. On top of that, if the death penalty is handed down, it should be implemented within a fairly short period of time. If you are going to use it, then friggen use it! I realize that the criminal has the right to appeals, but there are only so many times that you can rehash the evidence without coming up with something new to use as a mitigating circumstance. If it was in the evidence, then it would have been set out in the first place. If you were found guilty of the horrendous crime because you committed it, then why should we allow you to sit on death row, sucking up tax dollars and wasting people’s time having to take care of you? I know that there are people out there that will be extremely offended by this, but a bullet or a rope does not cost near as much as using the electric chair or euthanasia drugs. You might want to keep that in mind.

Crimes affecting a large number of people, like drug dealing or bank robbery, should also be in this category. Drug dealing, especially in the upper levels, reaches hundreds or thousands of people either directly (users) or indirectly (family, friends, coworkers or victims of the users crimes). Bank robbing also affects hundreds or thousands of people by causing financial insurance rates to go up nationwide, which is then passed on to the customers in general. Both of these crimes generally have a death that can be attributed to them, as well. They also cause taxes to be used to catch the criminal, bring them to trial and keep them in jail. This results in taxes being raised nationwide. (Oops! I just realized that the last sentence is true for all other crimes, so I may need to figure out how to keep a petty criminal from being sentenced to death along with the extreme criminals. It is very difficult to keep the levels separate, isn’t it?)

By instituting and enforcing these types of measures we can build a more stable society, reduce the number of crimes committed and a cause a major reduction of the number of prisons needed. Not to mention a reduction in the taxes required to run them all. The down side to this type of reduction is the loss of jobs available. That would be something to look into prior to implementing any sweeping legal changes.

Conversely, the taxes saved from not building and staffing prisons could go to building and staffing schools. The way things are going in this day and age, I am sure that many schools would be more than happy to accept security staff that was trained to handle criminals in most situations. What little training needed for the other situations wouldn’t take very long or cost near as much. Hmmmm….that would take care of the job issue, and would make it easier for the teachers and other staff members. Just think of how many workers that we would be able to move from prisons to schools. It would definitely increase the safety of our children.

My Apologies


To those of you that have allowed me into your lives, I ask your forgiveness and extend my apologies for not blogging over this past week.

It has not been a good week for me and mine. I have been dealing with an infected tooth, which, I am sure, some of you know what that feels like. We have also lost a very close friend of ours to liver failure at the age of 52 due to complications from cancer. On top of that, we lost a family member, who was in his late 60’s or early 70’s, due to complications from cancer. Both of whom developed these complications after the fact. This wouldn’t have been quite so hard on us, except that they both passed away within 12 hours of each other on Wednesday, October 10, 2012 (R.I.P.). We then found out the next day that my boyfriend’s nephew lost a very lucrative job with an oil company due to cutbacks. I am still looking for work, and just received the bill from the emergency room in the amount of $680. Add to that our upcoming bills for gas, electricity, plates for the jeep, car insurance and next month’s rent. I have also had to cancel my dental appointment due to a lack of funds. Which will most likely cause another trip to the emergency room for more antibiotics when the tooth infection flares up again.

On the plus side, we are all medically healthy, still have a home to live in, and I am going to start looking for work outside of my home, since I can’t find a decent paying job online that matches my skill level. Because of this, I will most likely be very sporadic with my blogs and hope that all of you will stick with me throughout this trying period of my life. It may take a while to get a routine down so that I can begin blogging on a regular basis again, but I will do my best to post at least once a week, hopefully more. Just don’t hold your breath on the “more” part.

I will understand if some of you no longer follow me during the next few months, but I do hope that you will continue to check back on occasion to see when I have posted something new. I also intend to post as many as I can, as often as I can, during the next few weeks. I have some ideas to blog about, but would appreciate all the ideas that you can come up with and are willing to pass on to me. The more controversial, the better. Just don’t get too angry if I take your ideas in a completely different direction than you expected.

Thank you for being you and accepting me.

Hugs.

So you’re lookin’ for a job?


What to do, what to do? Hmmmm. Let’s see,

  • Can you type 60 + words a minute without errors?
  • Do you have an average of 8,000 keystrokes per hour on 10-key without errors? 
  • Do you have 2+ years experience in your chosen field?
  • Do you have a degree from college (preferable a BA or higher)?
  • Can you perform 3 or more tasks at the same time, for multiple supervisors, without errors and with an extremely short deadline for each task?
  • Can you handle high stress situations that would put a Psychiatrist/Psychologist in the Looney Bin?
  • Do you have special training as a typist, data entry specialist, proofreader/editor or audio medical/legal transcriptionist?
  • Is your credit score over 500 no matter what the job is?
  • Are you willing to work extremely long hours for extremely low pay?
  • Are you willing to do everyone else’s job on top of yours?
  • Are you able to perform customer service with a smile even when you want to choke the living crap out of the customer?
  • Are you able to take the blame for everything that has gone wrong since the beginning of the human genome?

If you can say yes to most of these questions, and many others, then you should have no problems in the job market.

For the rest of us trying to break into a new job market, or make enough money to pay the bills, here are a few nasty realizations.

Most companies nowadays are looking for that one person who can do it all, is already trained, has mondo amounts of experience and is willing to take a beating day in & day out for the next 30 + years. They are looking for people who don’t question their procedures, policies and changes in the job description. If I remember my history class, they were called slaves.  In sci-fi and entomology, they are called drones.

Companies are no longer willing to hire someone they have to spend the time and money on to train in their procedures. Apparently all companies have identical ways of doing things. Therefore all the other companies should have already trained you. Never mind that all the companies feel the exact same way. Or that this would be your first job, if someone would actually hire you.

Companies also don’t want to hire anyone fresh out of high school or still in college. Lack of an actual degree coupled with extreme youth tells them that all you want to do is drink, do drugs and have sex. Therefore, you would not be willing to work 12 to 14 hours a day with the lowest salary legally allowed. They also feel that you would not be willing to work only a few hours a week with minimum wage (or less if they can get around the law) per hour. I’m pretty sure that there is also a small degree of jealousy involved, as well.

If you are of a higher age group, don’t get your hopes up. Companies don’t want you either. You might actually have a family. This means that you also don’t want to work 12 to 14 hours/day for excessively low wages. First, you want to spend time with your children and your spouse. Second, you might have to take time off because your child/spouse is sick or because the school has such unreasonable requirements like going to parent/teacher conferences and other icky things like that. You might even want to have holidays off! How irresponsible you are! Third, you might actually want to be paid enough so that you can cover all you bills. Not to mention feed your family. Very anti-company.

Then there are the companies that don’t want someone with multiple jobs during their life in the workforce. Too many jobs that are less than 1 or more years shows that you are not loyal, have ADHD, are a dreamer or just plain don’t want to work. It also shows that you don’t play well with others. Job seekers are not allowed to be human, have feelings, opinions or to expect loyalty from their employers. Never mind that you might have been involved in the Military (parent(s) or spouse), was offered better paying positions in another city, county, state, etc. Or that you had to move due to lower costs of living. If you have stayed in the same town/city, then woe betide your chances of finding work outside of day laborer.

So, what can you do?

Well, if you can hack the pimply faced, pants around the hips, greasy haired, self-centered, all around “why me” laziness of the younger generations and have wonderful customer service skills, then fast food might be just what you’re looking for. No more is this a job that high school kids take for some extra cash on the weekends or during summer. No! Now you have to compete against college graduates (from an AA up to and including doctorates), 20 + year workforce veterans and other average adults that can no longer afford to work in that nice cushy office job that only pays $8 – $10 dollars an hour and is part-time on top of that. McDonald’s is offering $12 an hour in small towns such as Lander, WY. I am sure it is even higher in the big cities around the nation.

Gas stations in the bigger cities have also joined in with fast food chains when it comes to the wage train, but us small town folks still have to suffer with minimum wage. Of course, the same cons apply as you saw in the previous paragraph.

Or, if you don’t mind answering questions day in and day out, you can be a Customer Service Representative. As long as you are willing to suck up all of the complaints, whining and threats from both directions with a smile. And no passing the customer on to the next level up.  That is not allowed. The supervisor’s only job is to make sure you don’t actually kill anyone and get your job done.  Heaven forbid that they actually step in and deflect an angry customer from destroying any self-confidence you might once have had. If you decide that you want to work as a CSR from your own home, be prepared to work for multiple companies that use the call center you work for. Also, you will have to lay out the money for the accepted type of computer, amount of RAM/ROM, special software, high-speed internet access and headset required by the company. Be aware that they rarely reimburse you for this. There is also a training period that usually requires you to spend 6+ weeks at their main headquarters. Most of the time this is paid, but training done online usually isn’t.

Let me see. What else is available?

There are a multitude of other types of jobs available online. If you have a degree (BA or higher), have a high credit score, are willing to relocate, will work for low wages (some microjobs will only pay you 1 cent for 1 hour of work), or you don’t mind working for some company in India, Australia, or anywhere else outside of the U.S. Most of the “online” jobs that I personally have looked into are based out of India and do not bother to show their pay scale in USD. Since I don’t know what the legalities are of working from your home for a foreign company, I have yet to apply for any of these jobs. I do know that very few foreign countries have the same copywrite (copyright?) laws that the US has, so I worry about job offers that want you to retype a book from a PDF file into MS Word or other format for ebooks. They usually require a high rate of typing, also.

Another problem with working from your home is all of the scams and MLM companies out there. If they ask you to buy something from them upfront, it’s a scam. If you are required to buy only their products (on a weekly/bi-weekly or monthly basis), and are willing to recruit your friends & family, it’s usually an MLM. Either way, you are being asked to pay to work. Sadly, there are many job offers out there that wind up in one of these categories. Then there are the “Temp Agencies” for online workers. It is amazing how many of these get away with charging the employee a fee. Most likely, they are also charging the company a fee. How are any of these three types of “employers” staying in business? Obviously, the US government doesn’t care that its citizens are being ripped off, just as long as they get their taxes.

Also, if you work from home, you will need to have a PayPal type of account. Or, be willing to hand out your bank account number to every Tom, Dick & Harry on the internet. Occasionally, there are companies that will pay you by check, but only if your account with them has a minimum amount & you remembered to ask for your pay on time. These are usually the companies that you see offering work for severely low amounts for a large amount of time. You will rarely be paid more of than once a month and that is only if they are happy with your work. If you have an error or it took you more time than was allotted, then you’re screwed.

I have since found that the majority of US companies outsource most of their typing/data entry jobs to foreign companies. Because it’s cheaper.  God forbid that they should outsource to US citizens and make sure that we can afford to buy their services or products.  If it is cheaper for them, why do they charge more?

Just something for you to think about.